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October 20, 2021

How to Build Confidence in Our Children

National Youth Confidence Day


October 20th 

Confidence by definition is,
  • The feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; strong trust
  • The state of feeling certain about the truth of something
  • A feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities.
  • Similar to: trust, faith self-assurance, belief, credence, conviction, reliance

I feel such a need to write this post. I am a mother of three girls, and I have seen how quickly their confidence can whither. It may be for a few hours, days, or weeks. I know how it feels to have one event or test crush every ounce of confidence you had.
I am a firm believer in building each other up! Spread kindness and acknowledge someone's strengths and accomplishments, no matter how small.
Having confidence isn't about boasting or being arrogant, and I think somewhere along the way, it has been given that vibe. We've lost the true definition and replaced confidence with words like diva, cocky, and sassy. We've allowed bad behavior and disrespect to be diluted and made to look "cute" or given an excuse for it.
"Boys will be boys."
"She gets it from me."
"She/he won't take any crap."
I'm just using these as examples.
I want to use this post as an example, or guide, to get back to building the confidence in our youth in a positive way.
 Now, I'm not saying every kid, parent, or adult is going around encouraging or flaunting bad behavior.
I just think we can all use a boost in the right direction. A positive reinforcement to pass on to the younger humans. 
Be an example.
"Children will follow your actions before they repeat your words."
Here I have listed a few books that help parents encourage and teach self-confidence.

There is so much sadness, hurt, uncertainty, and meanness in the world right now. It is heartbreaking.
 I know I want to build my children up as much as possible. Many people need that reassurance every day.
 I like being reassured and acknowledging my own accomplishments.
I like knowing I have support and a cheering team.
Who doesn't need a confidence booster every once in a while?

Can you imagine how humanity could change if we gave out just one compliment or encouraged someone every day?
It takes less energy to be kind than it does to be mean.
For me, I feel better about myself(more confident) when I am showing kindness or complimenting others.

Sometimes, as parents, we forget to build up our children. Sometimes, we unintentionally break down their confidence.
I know I am guilty. We get busy, tired, or distracted. We get aggravated and frustrated. There are times, we don't even think twice about something that is important to them.
Little things to us, may be huge to them.
Let's build up their confidence. Even in little ways.
Here are some great ways to enforce this.

I really want to continue this post and lean more into positive affirmations. Not only for youth, but for anyone.
It isn't just the younger ones that need these.
Let's build each other up and spread healthy confidence in each other!

Happy Youth Confidence Day!
Go give someone a compliment!

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